How are you doing?
I’ve been feeling very happy. One night right before I went to sleep, I wondered what exactly made feel so content and comfortable. After a couple of minutes, I realised that I created a whole list of people/activities/books/movies/etc that inspired me.
That’s exactly what I’m going to talk about today. I hope you’ll enjoy it!
A lot of people in this community are very creative. They inspire me to push myself to pursue my creative urges as well. Sometimes I don’t seem to be able to make time to be writing or painting. I forget that it makes me very happy. Being creative makes me feel very fulfilled and motivated to do other things (such as cleaning my room, can you believe it?).
I am not someone who shares much of my creative feelings. People know I love doing it, but I rarely show it to them. Lately, I’ve been busy redecorating my room. I have never been so excited to be at my desk and search pictures on Pinterest on how to shape my room to my personality. Every day, I have a new idea. A new drawing to put in frames, pictures that I could put on my wall, how I’ll hang my fairy lights, quotes that I could turn into art, etc.
(If you want me to show you some of the things I’ve come up with, I could write a post about it, or share it on my Instagram.)
Of course, I love writing. I haven’t been writing a lot, though. Even though, I think about it every day. I have an idea for a book I’m writing. For months, I’ve been collecting research and notes about my story. I am just not able to settle on one plot line. Every time, I think I’m finally ready to start writing, I get a new idea and change the entire course of my story. I’m currently having a small revolution in my mind about the whole book. I’m curious to see how long it’ll take for me to change it again.
Lilylikecom is a youtube channel that I’ve discovered a couple of months back. Lilia is one of the most inspirational people I ‘know’. She has a blog (about fashion, philosophy, her personal life, and other), a stationery line, she studies law and philosophy, and recently announced she will be writing for an online magazine called MissIndependentMag. Lilia is my alter ego at the moment. She shares so much inspiring moments in her life a seventeen-year-old university-student like me can learn a lot from. She has a mindset to go after the things she wants. To me, she is one of the most fierce Girlbosses I know.
Here is the link to her YouTube channel.
In general, it’s being independent that makes me happy. I don’t want to depend on many people, in the way that if I lose them, I would realise that I can’t do anything myself. Searching a rich husband is not on my bucket list. 😉 The reward of hard work is worth so much more to me.
When Calls the Heart
This Netflix show is so wonderful and cute. I was searching for something lighthearted to match my mood, and this show fits it perfectly. It could come off a little cheesy sometimes, but that just makes it all the more fun. I also get a small Christmassy vibe from it. It’s not too early to talk about Christmas, is it?
Crime and detective series
I’ve mentioned before that I’m really into crime. I get really happy when I’m able to explore that interest. Sometimes I feel bad for enjoying Netflix so much, but it’s not as superficial as other people might think. You can learn a great deal from watching movies and series. They explore human interaction and their place in different worlds and situations. I am fascinated with the diversity in film. It does not solely exist to entertain ‘brain-dead’ people.
I also love documentaries. At the moment, I’ve been watching crime and psychological docu’s, but also historical ones. Ones where they talk about the ancient castles and its secrets. I’ll list a few of my favourites, right here:
- The Bletchley Circle
- How to get away with Murder
- Miss Fischer’s Murder Mysteries
- My Friend Rockefeller (docu)
- Real Detective (docu)
- Nurses who kill (docu)
- Secrets of Underground London (docu)
- Secrets of Great British Castle (docu)
- Secrets of Scotland Yard (docu)
- Secrets of the Tower of London (docu)
- Secrets of Westminster (docu)
This is probably the most obvious item on the list. It’s still worth mentioning. It does not matter how small the library is, when I’m surrounded by books, I’m happy. Being surrounded by thousands of stories, written by thousands of people, it feels almost surreal. These were all people who share my interest in writing (and probably reading as well). I love to spy on people I spot looking at books. That brings me to my next point.
I’m going to a university in Ghent in a few days, one of the most beautiful cities in Belgium. I’m attending a Spanish course in Ghent to have some knowledge of the language before I study it for real. People have told me that the university moves very fast on teaching the language. It might be difficult for a lot of people to follow. And since they offered a summer course, I decided to take it. That way I’m already familiar with the language. Although, I do have to wake up at 06.30…
The days I’ve been in Ghent, my eyes have been opened. I have visited this city numerous times, but I never really noticed its ‘personality’. I come from a small village, so it is quite new to me. The traffic, the people, the culture, etc. And since this made the list of things that make me happy, you might guess that I really like it so far. I’ve met a lot of great people. It’s refreshing. I feel like I’ve grown already in the two weeks I’ve been going to this course. I can’t call myself a simple village girl anymore. The city is really beginning to grow on me.
Music has always been an important part of my life. When I’m happy, I play music. When I’m sad or angry, I play music. When I’m not sure about how I’m feeling, I play music. It’s always been the best way of dealing with my thoughts and feelings. That, and my journal. It calms me, it empowers me, and it makes me happy.
Do you recognize that mini-heart attack you get when you realise you’ve forgotten your earphones when you go out?
Here is a list of some of my all time favourite songs:
- Bad at Love – Halsey
- Dusk till Dawn – Zayn ft. Sia
- Justify – The Rasmus
- Brother – NeedtoBreathe
- 7 Devils – Florence and the Machine
- La Valse d’Amélie – Yann Tiersen
- Habibi – Tamino
- Where’s my Love – Syml
- Soundtrack Schindler’s List – John Williams
Kindness and solidarity
I’ve always been an optimist. I don’t think people aren’t able to change, that the world is dark and evil, that humanity isn’t within everyone. I’m not religious, but I believe in people. Kindness is contagious. I’ve seen it many times. I try to do at least one kind thing to someone else every day. Little tip: smiling to a stranger you pass on the street has more effect than you might think.
Those are the main things that are my source of happiness at the moment. I’m sure I’ll be able to make another one of these. These are the things that I can think of at the moment. Of course, there are more than 7 things that make me happy.
To be truly happy, you have to be happy with yourself first. I’ve been inspired by a lot of fabulous women, my family, and myself.
Being true to yourself is essential. Don’t surround yourself with bad thoughts, or people who don’t mean well. After a while, it’ll be so easy. I would never choose people with whom I couldn’t be myself over being alone. And I can assure you, if you are yourself, you won’t be along for very long. You’ll be able to grow and find yourself along the way.
Don’t forget self-criticism is very important. You are your unfinished project that can always improve. But give yourself some slack, everyone is allowed to make mistakes. They never make you worth less than someone else.
Happiness isn’t in the material things, it is within yourself.
And with that, I say goodnight!
Thank you so much for reading! This is by far the most heartfelt post I’ve ever written. I know it’s quite long, but I hope it brought you some joy.